New category: Things I wish I had been told at age 18Posted: July 23, 2012
Just what the name implies. Now, whether I would have listened at age 18 is open to conjecture. (I sort of think I would have. This one, at least.) But even if I hadn’t listened right that moment, I would have heard and maybe pondered it later. Time-release wisdom.
Starting out: here’s an excerpt from an article on Huffington Post by Jennifer Gauvain, an author and therapist from Denver. Though the article comments on marriage from a woman’s perspective, I’ve found that wisdom can be gleaned from unexpected sources.
Have you ever talked yourself into a decision that you already knew was the wrong one? Of course you have. We all do. Have you ever taken a job that you knew in your gut wasn’t a good fit for you? (Totally ignored the weird vibes from your new boss? Assured yourself you could learn to be “detail oriented and good with numbers”?) What about buying that car that you really couldn’t afford? (A $600-a-month car payment on a thirty-thousand-dollar-a-year salary? Yeah, right.) Or maybe you agreed to split the rent with your slovenly college friend in order to afford a nicer apartment? (Shut your eyes and hope she had magically changed into someone neat and tidy?) And what about the third donut you ate for breakfast this morning? (The little voice in your head promised, “I’ll go for a run after work”?)
We can rationalize anything. But when we talk ourselves into dating the wrong guy or girl — that’s where the potential for lifelong heartache begins.