Follow up to “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.”Posted: August 2, 2012
It’s essential that – beyond whatever feelings of despair you may feel on the surface – you remain aware that somewhere, deep down, there is a kernel of hope. If you can’t find it, keep looking.
Hindsight is a beautiful thing, but it’s not readily available to you while you negotiate an emotional morass. Focus on the knowledge that, given time, you’ll be able to look back on your experience and take important lessons from it. Intellectually acknowledge that you will take something positive out of the pain you’re feeling now, even if just now you haven’t the foggiest notion of what it is.
You have to trust that, in time, everything will become clear. Until then, pretend. You’ll be amazed at how much acting like you feel a certain way helps you actually feel that way.